Photographer — Betsy Martin @betsysinclair
Last year over coffee and kids, two summer-time friends asked me about my love life; had I met anyone? Was I dating? The answer to both questions was the same; no and no.
Over the years I’ve gone on a few dates that frankly, weren’t worth the effort. Truth be told, I’m at an odd age; I’m not old enough to retire from the love game and I am too old to get married and start another family.
Not to be deterred by my blatant disinterest, my pals decided that I should make a list of what I wanted in a man — just so I’d recognize him when I saw him.
Unfortunately, after some giggles and some thought, I had nothing. I had no idea what would make a suitable companion. As it turned out they had a list and, for the next ten minutes, I sat quietly as they rattled off the attributes of the perfect partner. Here’s the original list in the order they deemed proper:
- Confident and not intimidated by women
- Funny
- Smart
- Financially secure
- Understands family
- Someone, that if he was a girl, you’d still be friends
I added chemistry; let’s just leave it at that…
So, with the list in hand, I chugged the rest of my coffee, collected my kids, and went home.
A few weeks later, I found the list and tacked it on a cork board in my office. As I looked at the list, I decided to add three items that I thought would round out my perfect guy:
- Someone I could confide in
- Someone I could trust
- Someone who would take care of me
Satisfied, I re-pinned the list to my office wall and went on with my life.
Over the next few months, I raced a sports car, cursed along with Five Finger Death Punch and navigated a glacial mass. Today, NOW, it’s time to exercise another universal law — the Law of Attraction.
I’ve put my list out there? What’s on your list?
It doesn’t need to be a love list; it can be a life list.
You only get one life — what do you wish to accomplish?
Write it down and let’s see what happens.
Have a great week,