Photographer — Betsy Martin @betsysinclair
Last year, over coffee and kids, two summer-time friends asked me about my love life. Had I met anyone? Was I dating? The answer to both questions was the same: no and no.
Over the years since my husband’s death, I’ve gone on a few dates that frankly, weren’t worth the effort. Truth be told, I’m at an odd age. I’m not old enough to retire from the love game, and I am too old to get married and start another family.
Not to be deterred by my disinterest, my pals decided I should make a list of what I wanted in a partner, so I’d recognize him when I saw him.
After some giggles and some thought, I had nothing. I had no idea what would make a suitable companion. Fortunately, they had a list, and for the next ten minutes, I sat quietly as they rattled off the attributes of the perfect partner. Here’s the original list in the order they deemed proper:
- Confident and not intimidated by women
- Funny
- Smart
- Financially secure
- Understands family
- Someone, if he were a girl, you’d still be friends
I added chemistry to round out their emotional inventory.
So, with the list in hand, I chugged the rest of my coffee, collected my kids, and went home. A few weeks later, I found the list and posted it on the corkboard in my office. As I looked at the list, I decided to add three items that I thought would make my perfect partner:
- Someone I could confide in
- Someone I could trust
- Someone who would take care of me
Satisfied, I re-pinned the list to my office wall and went on with my life.
Over the next few months, I raced a sports car, cursed along with Five Finger Death Punch, and navigated a glacial mass. NOW, it’s time to exercise another universal law—the Law of Attraction. I’ve put my list out there, and I’d like to inspire you to do the same. What’s on your list? It doesn’t need to be a love list; it can be a life list. What do you want to accomplish?
Write it down and let’s see what happens.
Have a great week,